There are many different theories on what can cause stress or discomfort and as many theoretical therapies. They all may have some truth for some people. One that may ring true with you is the idea of irrational beliefs. This list is quite extreme, but a useful thing to do is scan the list and see whether any ring a bell to some extent. If an irrational belief can be substituted by reality based thought, a person can move on from the past. Try scoring each of the 12 statements below from 1 (rubbish) to 10 (fact). How do you rate?
What are irrational beliefs?
12 irrational beliefs and rational replacementshttp://www.stressgroup.com/12IrrationalBeliefs.htmlInstead of their concentrating on their own self-respect, on winning approval for practical purposes, and on loving rather than on being loved.